"And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home" Deuteronomy 6:5-6
As parents, we deeply desire our children to have a healthy God-given view of their sexuality, and
we want them to know that thinking about their sexuality is very common. But if we keep silent about
sex or approach the subject with a negative attitude, we send majorly mixed messages to our
children. We are the ones who must help them see that everything from their changing bodies to
their changing thoughts is normal.
Parents are also in the best position to show our kids how living by the Purity Code is normal,
healthy, and God-centered. It's important to know that it is not just about sex and saving yourself for
In following the Purity Code, students are asked to make this pledge: "In honor of God, my family,
and my future spouse, I commit my life to sexual purity." It encourages making a lifetime
- Honoring God with your body
- Renewing your mind for the good
- Turning your eyes from worthless things
- Guarding your heart above all else
You will be the one to help build the foundation your kid will need to make this commitment - a
foundation of healthy sexuality that is based on Scripture and strong enough to withstand the forces
of secular culture.
You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body (1
Corinthians 6:20). This Scripture passage identifies the first area of our child's life that should be
committed to God: Honor God with your body. Not only should we encourage our children to not
participate in sexual sin, but they should keep their body healthy in every way.
The second part of the Purity Code is to renew your mind for the good. This is based on Romans
12:2: "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of
your mind." No matter what age, a person who lives by the Purity Code needs to tune out the "bad"
in culture and tune in the "good."
The third part of the Purity Code is to turn your eyes from worthless things. This truth comes straight
from Jesus, who said, "The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will
be full of light" (Matthew 6:22).
The final part of the Purity Code is to guard your heart above all else. This is based on Proverbs
4:23, which says, "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life" (NLT).
What a great summary of the lifelong benefits of living by the Purity Code from as young an age as
A consistent pledge to sexual purity is a road to true freedom for your children and for you. The
Purity Code Pledge may be a good first start for you to help lay a strong foundation of sexual
integrity with your own child.
By JIM BURNS